Mabey im just ignorant but this makes me mad.

By Jessecro Latest Activity March 9, 2010 at 7:02 pm Views 6,345 Replies 27 Likes 3


A couple of weeks ago I had to miss 2 days of work to live through yet another migrain. My bosses(partnership) were vary understanding and diddnt give me any trouble when I called In even though they have never had one, or know anyone else who has. Yestreday we were on the job talking to a Contractor about the layout of a footer and got on the subject of how hard his day was going because of the severe migraine he was suffering from. He claimed to have to read blueprints in the brightly lit sky around extremely loud excavation equipment and talk on his cell phone all day with this migraine. I felt embarasssed because my bosses had just given me 2 days off to deal with something this guy claimed to work through. Mabey im just ignorant but when I get a migraine i cant read road signs or see peoples faces due to like a reverse tunnel vision. I am lucky enough to have/suffer aura before and during to know when to get home and out of the construction site before its too late but when the aura starts I cant hold a hammer let alone read levels, blueprints, tapemeasures, opperate machinery, or even tie my boots. It's vary frustrating when someone with a little sinus headache brags about not letting a migraine slow them down when it hits me like a cement truck on the interstate. Anybody else feel the same or different? Please comment.

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  • SiMi-X
    SiMi-X June 21, 2012 at 11:56 pm   

    Wow, I can't believe how many replies here call the contractor ignorant when they themselves sound ignorant! Not only are there different types of migraines and different triggers, but even within the same type of migraine there are people who get different symptoms, different intensities, and different results from meds. Maybe the contractor had a silent migraine (no headache symptom) or maybe he doesn't get visual disturbances or maybe he took meds that helped his migraine a lot or maybe he had no choice but to work through the migraine because he has to feed his family and pay the mortgage. You don't know what someone else is experiencing within their body unless they tell you the details. Somebody not getting an aura, headache, visual disturbances, etc. when you do does not mean you have migraines and they don't or that you deserve more pity. Somebody who is able to work through a migraine while you can't doesn't mean they definitely don't have migraines - people work through horrible pain, sickness, and disease all the time. Every person is different and in different circumstances. If you want others to understand your condition, you need to start understanding others' conditions, even if it is similar to yours but they don't look like they are suffering as much. If you want others to believe your "invisible" migraines exist, you have to believe others' "invisible" medical issues also exist. Also, many here mentioned sinus headaches - those are very rare and only occur during a sinus infection. 90% of what people think are sinus headaches are actually migraines. Regardless, sinus headaches are painful and you can't poo-poo someone's pain just because you feel your pain is worse. You wouldn't like it if someone suffering with cancer and its treatments poo-pooed your migraines because that person was in more pain and facing possible death. Yes, migraine pain and suffering is real, but, no, you're not the only one who has pain and suffering and not the only one who has migraines. Ignorance can go both ways; don't let it!

  • JKN71
    JKN71 November 12, 2012 at 2:25 am   

    I think everyone has a different level of pain tolerance, so that impacts what they are and are not able to do with a migraine. Just like migraines vary in intensity from one time to the next, so does an individual's ability to cope with the situation. Sometimes, there is no option but to go to work. I stay home if I can, but I'm an attorney, and I run my own business; therefore, if I have court, I'm going even with a migraine because no one else there cares. That's just how my cookie crumbles, and I've become used to that. Now, I might go straight home as soon afterwards as I can!

  • vertadi
    vertadi May 11, 2012 at 7:56 am   

    I'm terribly sorry that so many people have to go through my kind of suffering. I thought joining this site would somehow provide me consolation, in the sense that I'm not alone in it. Now that I read similar stories, I realize it just makes me feel worse. Anyway, my love to you all fellow sufferers. You're little heroes living your lives with a condition like this.

  • dexter22
    dexter22 April 5, 2012 at 10:39 pm   

    Hello I have finally found someone that has vertigo with migraines. I have been dealing with constant vertigo for the last 8 months and they same I have migraine assoicted vertigo or vestibular migraines. I don't have pain with the vertigo. I only have a painful migraine about 2-3 a month. I was just wondering if u have constant vertigo?

  • Terrilynne79
    Terrilynne79 February 28, 2012 at 8:43 pm   

    What concerns me more than people possibly faking migraines is how many of them went to a doctor for a headache, and THE DOCTOR only heard "headache" and labeled it "migraine" without looking at other causes like sinus issues which there is at least an easier fix for. I think they probably hear the complaint headache so much they've quit listening, asking questions and rating these headaches. While your bosses may never had one, they may have watched their mother or a spouse suffer with them to be so understanding. Most people with common sense know that some will suffer worse than others with any condition. I'm thankful I'm not married to someone who thinks their tension headache is the same as my 2 day run with my head in a trash can.

  • kaiya2465
    kaiya2465 February 29, 2012 at 8:50 am   

    I suffer from both migraine & sinus headaches. If people don't know how to pay attention to the signs it is easy to use the label migraine. Like ImJ9 stated "the word migraine is terribly overused" maybe in part to get sympathy & also for persons that have no clue how to recognize the different types headaches.

  • ImJ9
    ImJ9 February 26, 2012 at 2:25 am   

    The word migraine is terribly overused. And yeah, people calling their headache a migraine causes us problems. I'm a 40yo woman who has had chronic headaches and migraines since I was about 10. As all of you know, that kind of pain makes you not want to talk, go do things, even fun things or do household chores and so on. My family didn't believe that my head could hurt that much that often so I would get in trouble for "being a snot" and not doing what I was told. Point being, I had to learn to work through the pain or be grounded for the rest of my life. I couldn't always do it but I had to always try.

    So fast forward to now, I can work thru my worst headaches on up to a mid range migraine. But i work in an office, anything else i may not be able to do it. I say i can work thru it, however, if it is a major headache or a migraine, my critical thinking skills are gone. All I can do is what I call "zombie out". And everyone at work knows just by looking at my face, I'm just not there. I turn off one bank of lights in my office and I focus on my breathing. I sort of go on auto pilot where I'm physically doing the work but unable to really think about it. I move very slow, talk very slow and can have a hard time finding words. I found out my speech is also a bit slurred, creating a new problem because i come across as drunk. If I turn my head I may puke so I have to turn my whole body to look any place other than straight. Although I'm there and I'm working, if anything comes up that is outside the daily routine or requires me to think, its all over. I can't hold on to the zombie thing and the pain seems to instantly double. All can do is go in a dark room and cry. Last time, I only had 2 hours left of my shift and was working through. The controller at work heard from coworkers I had a migraine. They know when they see the lights in my office dimmed. She forced me to go home and called my manager to come in and finish my shift. I couldn't drive so I called for a ride and went to an urgent care. I had everyone telling me the next day that my manager was totally pissed that I went home and she had to cover. Worst part is that she used to suffer from migraines and keeps telling me that it makes no sense that my doctor hasn't gotten rid of them. Because everyone she knows that had migraines have been cured. (laced in sarcasm here) I had no idea there was a cure and i don't get why she wont tell me what it is or which doctor i can get it from. I also suffer from occasional insomnia, she said it makes no sense, "if you want to sleep you'll go to sleep." i guess she thinks insomnia is fake. I told her I wished it was that easy. But it was lovely, 3 weeks later I got to work and she told me she just couldn't fall asleep last night. I said, "if you wanted to sleep you would have fallen asleep." I'm passive aggressive, it felt good.

    Wow, felt good to get that off my chest

  • kiz91
    kiz91 February 11, 2012 at 4:23 pm   

    I'm with you on this one , when people say they have a migraine mine are so debilitating I can't get out of bed and I end up stayin there for virtually 3 days or more on lucky I have an understanding job too I'm glad I found this app as I can share my experiences with you guys :)

  • kaiya2465
    kaiya2465 February 15, 2012 at 1:39 pm   

    I agree with all of you about being mad with the ones that don't honestly have migraines. They are very debilitating. I have to drag myself out of bed, walking bent over because if I stood straight up I would get really what I call "PUKE" sick. I do what I have to then go back to bed & cry myself to sleep as usual. So we "True Migraine Sufferers" have a right to be mad or upset at the ones that use that as any excuse & not really have them.

    Hugs to you all!!!!

  • lilmellie
    lilmellie November 23, 2011 at 6:02 pm   

    No you're not ignorant, mad..yes be mad. These things make me mad as well. What he got was just a normal headache that was brought on by what he was doing all those things. Today many people use the word Migraine to get out of work or something.

    Many people just don't know the truth how it effects people who have migraines unless they either have it or know someone has it. My sister-in-law is also has migraines and I can vouch for her that she does gets annoyed and ticked off when she hears people using migraiine as an excuse, when they don't have it.

    Thankfully I had a boss who was also a migraine sufferer and understood what I were going through but I know some of my co-workers weren't to happy.

    In my efforts to catch phonies I'll ask them what kind of symptoms they gotten before getting a migraine. Then if they don't name any of those then I just tell them they have some sort of headache but not migraine. Then I'll tell them some of the symptoms. Of course migraines effects everyone differently and he might have had a migraine but small.

  • Neisee
    Neisee November 20, 2011 at 4:13 pm   

    I can many times " suffer thru " a migraine by taking a 10/350 hydorcodone and 1/2 of a 25mg. phenergan. That being said, I have a VERY high pain tolerance and have literally trained myself to work while sick because at one time my bosses were not at all understanding. There were many times when my migraines first started I would fly to the bathroom, throw up, sit there and hold my head for a few minutes then go back to work. When it was time to go home for the day I would call my husband to come get because I was afraid to drive home.

  • Eisen
    Eisen November 18, 2011 at 12:38 pm   

    I have been there as well. I work as a nurse and there have been times that I have called into work for several days for a migraine. I will then have a co-worker say she has a migraine is staying at work. I believe some people may be able to take medication that helps. The regular meds given do not help me but have an adverse reaction. You must take care of yourself. Remember everyone is different and responds differently. Also what he thinks is a migraine might be a sinus headache ;)

  • cgtguerrero
    cgtguerrero October 24, 2011 at 10:36 pm   

    Don't feel bad and just worry and take care of yourself. When I first started getting migraines, I couldnt see, my room had to be completely DARK and absolutely no NOISE. But with four kids (boys) I had to learn how to deal with it. When am having a migraine I just try to gather enough strength to cook for them and serve them… After that am off to my bed. They come in my room whining and screaming so once again, I need to find the strength to get up n continue with my life. I think it's all about getting used to it. I do get auras so I try to take some medication. I am tolerable to pain so that might help me. Sometimes I go for about an hour with the freaking migraine until I give up and take some meds. (pain killers) And just wait about 3 hours for it to go away. But yeah just try to relax when you are having one and I guess get use to it! Lol
    Take care and becareful! :)

  • middle
    middle January 5, 2012 at 9:42 am   

    I find that when I am super busy and then try to relax a migraine comes on. I have had them since age 13. I have been to ER many times where I just want to say "cut my fingers off" and make it go away. I usually get a shot with anti-nasuea meds and then feel better. It wipes me out for a day or two. I had about 3 years ago a migraine everyday- I couldn't function, eat or tolerate the hair on my body. Now I know my triggers and avoid a lot of processed food. I do stress management as well. It's better now. I have one major headache a year where I will go get a shot. I take Paxil 50 mg which has really worked for me. I am right here for you. Carol

  • Jessecro
    Jessecro December 25, 2010 at 8:42 pm   

    Thank you all for your comments and I have found them both inspiring and empowering. I dont know anyone outside this community that suffer from migraines, and so until I found this website and you all I was mostly in the dark as far as how people react to migraines. Thank you all so much you dont know how much you have helped by taking the time comment on this discussion.

  • sillyjilly
    sillyjilly October 13, 2010 at 1:11 pm   

    Do not let anyone make you feel bad because your symptoms incapacitate you. Everyone person who gets migraine is different and every migraine is different. When I get them I cannot even see enough to walk my partner yesterday had to guide me around like a blind person. You are not inadequate because you get debilitated by a medical condition

  • snwbird
    snwbird November 19, 2011 at 12:41 am   

    That is so true. I know because I've suffered from them for 30+ yrs. Sometimes I can work through them or more like last until the end of my shift and then go home and collapse after taking pain killers. So it's not so much of it doesn't effect a person the same, but after having them for so many years I guess you know when you can and can't take it any longer and just need to give in and let yourself heal. We haven't been able to find my exact triggers, but do know that stress is a major factor with my migraines and over the years I've had different doctos tell me that I need to relax and stop stressing and I just laugh, because this day in age how do you not stress about anything unless you want to walk around like a zombie and sleep your life away? What kind of life is that, if that's my only alternative then I'd rather be dead. I've just learned to know when to give in and when to try and tough it out until I can give in. And then again you'll run into the men who say they're "tough" they can handle it, yeah right, I've seen a migraine take a healthy strong man and turn him into a baby. I've also ran into doctors who think it's all in my head, believe me that was the last time I ever saw those types of doctors. But I'm fortunate now to have finally found a doctor who specializes in migraines and my neck disorder. And he's actively trying to help me lessen my migraines, meaning lessening the frequency of how many that I have in one month. I can at least now go more than 2 days without a migraine. But back to my original point and this is for everyone not just you Eisen, don't let anyone make you feel like you're inadequate because your migraines take you out for 2 or more days at a time. I'll pray that you find a doctor who understands migraines and can help you in getting through your espisodes more quickly for your sake. Sillylily is absolutely correct in what she's saying. Take Care and hang in there. Don't give up hope!

  • wolverinesegg
    wolverinesegg July 18, 2010 at 4:03 pm   

    Not only do migraines vary in intensity from one person to the next, they vary from one episode to the next. On top of that there are different types of migraines.
    The ones with auras are classical migraines, the ones without are common migraines, and then there are cliuster headaches, which are related to migraines, though the intensity and duration of cllusters is as much worse than other migraines as migraines are from tension headaches.
    I have tension headaches daily, common migraines several times a week to almost daily, and the cliusters can last 7 to 8 hours on up to, the most I have had is 21 straight days.
    I got an associates degree, bachelors degree, and commuted 90 miles each way to school and work with these headaches. Of course there were days when I had to lock myself in my bedroom with black out curtains, and padded walls, but many more days I went to school or work with sunglasses on inside because the dimmed lights in todays corporate buildings were still to bright.
    Yes it is irritating when someone that has never had a migraine complains about sinus or tension headaches, but people do work with migraines and clluster headaches.

  • cjpraises
    cjpraises June 1, 2010 at 12:14 pm   

    I have suffered from migraines for many years. I have varying migraines. Some of them totally knock me out, others I can work through. With the knock-outs I usually don't get any type of warning. With the lesser migraines I do get the aura, the warning. Sounds crazy I know, but that's how it is with me. I completely understand where you're coming from though. Most people do not know what it is to truly suffer from a REAL migraine!

  • Jenxoxo
    Jenxoxo March 19, 2010 at 5:18 pm   

    I have the same pet peeve. Whenever anyone "says" they have a migraine, I ask: "Did you get an aura?" "Did you throw-up?" "Did you hit your head on the floor, because you couldn't take the pain for even one more second?" My favorite are the commercials advertising over-the-counter-aspirins as migraine relief meds. Yeah right!

    When I have a migraine, I literally cannot function. I am out. In bed. My husband has to work from home, because I cannot open my eyes. I literally go into another world until I can sleep it off.

    But with that said however, after my last year of migraines, I can say there are varying degrees of migraine pain. I had heart surgery to close a large PFO/ASD (hole in the heart), which could have been my cause of migraines. Instead, my migraines changed. In some ways for the better and in some ways for the worse. For example, I got several migraines post-op that were less painful. Strange! I got one during my daughter's fifth birthday party. I had the aura, but was able to semi-function during the party. Don't get me wrong. I still went to the bathroom, fell on the floor and cried. But I was able to get back up and go back to the party. I would never have been able to do that before.

    So with that said, I believe the contractor you worked with may have had one, but it was light. Yours was not. And that is a big difference in my book.

  • John Crowley
    John Crowley March 15, 2010 at 6:37 pm   

    As someone who gets the aura also, I totally understand what you're saying. If I worked a job like that, there's no way I'd try to just work through a migraine. I seriously might kill someone.

    But I have heard that not everyone gets the aura and the vision problems. I wonder if that's the big difference here.

    In the end though, I'm totally with you. I think some people call any headache a "migraine" because they get more sympathy that way.

  • snwbird
    snwbird November 19, 2011 at 12:56 am   

    All I can add to this is Amen! There are people out there that get sinus headaches and call it a migraine, even though they've never been to a doctor and had it diagnosed. Believe me a person that has migraines sees a doctor at some point because it's frightening and you're afraid that you've got a tumor, cancer or blood clot that's burst i.e. stroke. Mine scared the dickens out of my mom because she had a stroke when she was 36 and in 1976 that was young to have a stroke and she had also suffered from migraines for many years before that happened. When I had my first migraine at 16 she made the doctor do a CT scan and back then CT scans were like MRI machines are now days, few and far between, but our family doctor did it because it also concerned him and he just wanted to ease all of us by making sure I didn't have any blood clots that might burst like what happened to my mom. My mom was a miracle case because she survived having 3 clots burst and 2 put into a cocoon, so if they ever burst she'd never know it and she didn't have any paralysis from the stroke, so yes, she had an angel on her shoulder. That's the only explanation anyone could figure out, because she should not of come through it with no problems later on.

  • tinap26
    tinap26 June 23, 2010 at 8:07 am   

    I unfortunately do not get auras so I never know when it's coming! Individual people have varying degrees of pain tolerance. I personally cannot move when I've got a migraine. The slightest movement is torture! So, I have a hard time believing that anyone could actually work through a full fledged migraine. I think alot of what happens is that some people see their severe headache as a migraine without knowing the difference. I've learned how to function somewhat better than I used to if it's absolutely necessary for me to but this usually just increases the severity and I end up at the emergency room! It annoys me also that people who don't have them think they can understand them and somehow choose to believe that the pain isn't as debilitating as it really is.

  • snwbird
    snwbird November 19, 2011 at 12:56 am   

    Ditto here.

  • kaiya2465
    kaiya2465 November 19, 2011 at 6:23 pm   

    I second that "Ditto" …Hugs

    JAVAQUEEN2000 December 10, 2010 at 8:07 am   

    People who have migrains do not undersatnd the pain we suffer from coronic migrains. Once I was diagnosed with cluster migrains, I started to tell family. Their reaction was "OH I have had one of thoes. Just take Ex******* it works." My response was no it doesn't. When one hits. I see bright spots, and then the blurry ness starts. I begin to experience vertigo then I black out. I have found my self in the emergency room getting stitches in my head because I have hit somthing on the way down. I now kinow how to recognice when one is comming on and take the necessary mesures to lessen the effects.

    Most people have headaches and do not understand what a migraine is. I wish could tell you how to deal with them. All I can say is take care of YOU. You understand what you are going through. Good Luck.

  • Jenxoxo
    Jenxoxo December 15, 2010 at 10:46 pm   

    Wow! I have not heard of blacking out before (although I can see it happening). I completely agree with you and your comments. We need to take care of ourselves regardless if anyone gets it. Thanks for your comment!